Happy New Year!! New Year, New You… Resolution Time.
How many of us in that week before New Year’s Day, set resolutions or resolved not to set any resolutions because after all it won’t stick?
How many kept last year’s resolutions or even remember them?
We all have done it.
Yet the New Year, the changing of the calendar, the ball dropping, wishes for a better next year bring visions of the future and what we would like it to be.
Webster’s Dictionary defines resolution as “something that is resolved” (definition 3). It echoes definition 1 which includes the act or process of resolving, such as the act of analyzing a complex notion into simpler ones
So, resolutions are about ideas. I’m going to lose 30 pounds, read 60 books, learn the piano, find the love of my life. Simple statements that hide complex notions. But all are about taking a great you and making you even better.
We cannot just think or wish these things into being. It may begin with the thought and the feeling but…
What we really want are outcomes…. results.
Will I meet the love of my life sitting on my couch? (Online only relationships do not qualify as the love of your life)
Will I lose 30 pounds sitting on my couch. Unless I never get up to eat and that’s called starvation.
I might read 60 books sitting on that couch if I have them handy or on an e-reader app and turn off the TV.
You’ve all heard of SMART goals.
We have all made a resolution at New Year’s or during the year… weight, job, smoking, relationships, self-improvement and at one time or another didn’t keep them.
Why? What are we missing? Were our SMART goals not smart enough? Let’s look at the ever-popular New Year’s lose weight resolution.
Let’s suppose we each resolve to lose 30 pounds. It’s specific with respect to weight and measurable (assuming we have a scale). Depending on our starting and our ending point, we will work on the assumption that it is reasonable (healthy). It is probably attainable if it is reasonable. It does lack being time-bounded.
Let’s refine it by saying we will lose the weight by Memorial Day weekend and that the time frame is reasonable.
We start that diet on January 2. We eat the right stuff, join a gym and go every day to start. And just like last year, many of us drift back to status quo. By March, we feel guilty about that new gym membership that we pay for but don’t use.
Why did our SMART goal not work?
I believe the answer to that is that we must BE SMART.
Because. We must BE clear on our WHY. We are making a resolution, looking for an outcome, Because we want……. What?
We must get clarity around what we value and what is important to us. Is it connection, freedom, beauty, fitness, respect, fun, family, self-esteem or a combination of value words? The ones here are just a few possibilities. You can fill in your own or if you’d like a longer list to think on, email me at email@example.com.
Whatever future we might envision, we must have clarity about what we value so that we can create a future that aligns with those values and set the right goals to achieve it.
Write down 3-5 values words that resonant the most with you. How does your resolution/goal align with any of those words? Share in the comments below.
Once there is clarity about the Because, then action can begin.
Results require action. Real results require planned sustained actions. That requires the other part of BE.
Next time I’ll discuss ENERGY and its part in engagement, focus and energy falters.