The Cat and the River

How did I get here and where to from here? Questions I think any self-aware person asks themselves with a fair amount of frequency.


“Cheshire Cat: Where are you going?
Alice: Which way should I go?
Cheshire Cat: That depends on where you are going.
Alice: I don’t know.
Cheshire Cat: Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”

― Lewis CarrollAlice in Wonderland

Ah, the wisdom of Lewis Carroll. Five powerful lines. We are all Alice. The Cheshire Cat asks Alice where she is going. She answers by asking him to tell her which way she should go. How many of us have looked to others to tell us which way to go?

But the Cat is wise and won’t give an easy answer. He gives the answer that makes all of us cringe…. That depends….

But our Alice admits she doesn’t know. And gets the frustrating but logical response from The Cat.

But I have always wanted to know. Even if my steps seemed odd or illogical to some, they were and are part of finding my why, my purpose.

I’ll bet you can guess I’ve spent a lot of time asking myself those questions. It prompted me to work on my meditation practice, to view my walks as part of my thinking time, to a goal of finding time to sit by the water.

This past Fall, I was on vacation from my day job. During that time away, I chose to sit by the beautiful Navesink River in Red Bank NJ to spend an amazing half hour on the phone with Kim Fulcher, an extraordinary coach and then to sit and think.

My choice of setting on that beautiful day was deliberate. The serenity and beauty of the river in Autumn added to the openness and power of the conversation. I could have taken the call in a Starbucks with a venti pumpkin spice latte in front of me. But the experience would have changed. The hustle and bustle of a café would not have been as conducive to turning inward. You know INWARD, that place to start when you look to where your outward path lies so you can successfully get there.

Perhaps, it is because water is a natural reflector. Perhaps, it is the flow of water and the things it carries past and away from us on its currents. Rivers are a metaphor for life and time. It is no accident that rivers are key settings in many of the greatest novels, myths and music.

When you open yourself up to the Universe, the Universe answers. Over the Fall and Winter, many people added their voices to acknowledge the energy and path I was on. I began to further explore, read about and sharpen my tools and skills to further that path. I started a small group called Work Your Purpose to support others looking at their journey. I connected with Juju Hook and Mary Rogers  who have been amazing mentors and their guidance is invaluable.

Sitting there on that beautiful Fall day, I began to see a current in my life. Kim Fulcher encouraged me to explore and expand my coaching purpose.  Watching the river, the currents, eddies, whitecaps raised by the wind, I could see better the flow of energy that had led me to that conversation by the river.  It was time to raise my sails.


We all know that the river leads to the ocean where the world is deeper and wider, the tides and currents stronger and there may be rocks ahead.  I have been blessed to find coaches, mentors and colleagues to be my beacons on this journey. I have seen that point on my horizon and have the resources to reach it.

I have embraced my purpose. I am a life and business coach in service of others. I am here to support your exploration through questioning to find the answers that are inside you, to help clear the blocks and obstacles that keep you from reaching your point on the horizon.  Because, like me, you know the river leads to oceans of opportunity, you just need a lighthouse to guide you on your course.

So welcome to Point Reach Coaching and my blog.  My path has led me to a place where I want to talk about many things. I will share my thoughts and activities, and the occasional author interviews and reviews of books (after all what is life without a good novel). I will invite and share with you posts from others on topics I find and hope you’ll find interesting.

If I can be of service to you on your journey from the point you are now to the goals you want to reach in your life or business, feel free to email me.